Do you have moments when you ‘feel fat’? And when you do, you resolve to go on a diet or paradoxically, eat a bunch of food to feel better in the moment?
Fat is not a feeling.
Fat is a substance, either in your body, or in food.
When you experience ‘feeling fat’, you are probably experiencing another emotion underneath.
‘Feeling fat’ often means you feel:
Anxious about being judged.
Disappointed about how you performed.
Rejected by someone whose opinion you value.
Ashamed because you think you’re not good enough.
Sad because you suffered a loss.
These emotions can be very uncomfortable, so you don’t want to feel them.
One way you may have learnt to deal with these emotions is to cover them up with what you call ‘feeling fat.’
Because you think you can ‘fix fat.’
By going on a diet or eating differently, you believe you can get rid of ‘feeling fat’. But really, going on a diet is often an attempt to avoid feeling anxious, disappointed, rejected or sad, or any other uncomfortable feelings.
Wanting to avoid these feelings is futile.
Uncomfortable, difficult feelings are part of life.
When you lose fat, you will still feel anxiety, disappointment and sadness.
There will always be people who don’t like you. You will have bad days. You will make mistakes.
Losing weight won’t protect you from any of that. Instead, it will likely lead to yo-yo dieting, poor body image, and obsession with food and the scale.
Instead of running head on into the next weight loss program or cutting carbs, fat and sugar;
You can learn to manage your feelings without the need for dieting.
The first step is to discover what’s underneath the ‘fat feeling.’
Next time you ‘feel fat’, you can ask yourself: What am I really feeling? Anxious? Sad? Disappointed? Rejected? Notice the sensations in your body. Stay with them, even just for a few seconds. Do you feel something else besides fat?
Understanding what you are really feeling is important because it often points to an unmet need or desire. And that need will never be met by another weight loss program.
Awareness of what you are feeling is one of the tools that I teach you in my coaching package.
Along with a range of other tools, it will help set you free from the diet-binge cycle and hating your body.