Is food your only source of pleasure?
Food is a source of pleasure for us. It's normal and desirable (because it drives us to eat, which we need to survive).
However, if food is the ONLY source of pleasure in your day, you may rely on it more than your body actually needs, leading to overeating, emotional eating, binge eating.
Which, soon after the food has passed your lips, isn't actually pleasurable at all.
I see many women deny themselves pleasure.
In our busy lives, we've forgotten to make space for it, because of the beliefs we hold about pleasure:
These can sound like:
It's not important.
I should put others' needs first.
Pleasure is an unnecessary indulgence.
I have to earn pleasure by completing my to-do-list first.
How do these beliefs affect your experience of daily life?
What happens to many women I see, and it used to be the same for me too, is that we wait until the end of the day, when we collapse on the couch, and then ‘reward’ ourselves with TV, wine, and a pile of snacks. It feels good in the moment, but we tend to regret it soon after.
So what can we do?
This week, I invite you to experiment with adding mindful pleasures throughout your day.
They only take a few moments of your time, and involve one or more of your five senses:
Take 5 minutes /day and build up from there.
Ask yourself: What would feel pleasurable right now?
Visual: Looking at a beautiful coffee table book? At a peaceful nature view? A painting in your office?
Touch: Your softest scarf? Giving yourself a head massage? Holding a smooth pebble you found on the beach?
Smell: An aromatherapy oil? A spritz of your favourite perfume? Smelling coffee beans?
Auditory: Your favourite song? Listening to the birds outside? Listening to silence?
Taste: A delicious hot or cold drink, consumed in silence, or with music, in the sunshine?
Intentionally making time for pleasure throughout your day, in small and consistent ways, can have a big impact on whether you revert to using food as your only form of pleasure or not.
Food is a form of pleasure, and you always have full permission to experience pleasure from food. That said, I invite you to experiment with other forms of pleasure in addition to food.
What pleasurable experience will you make time for today?